Why Do Bad(or Good) Things Happen?
Spirituality of Self, Soul and Source
Why do good things happen?
To look at why undesirable or unwanted things happen, let’s look at what “good” and “bad” are, and at why good things happen.
“Good” is traditionally defined as helpful, useful, resourceful, positive, uplifting, and generally as something that happens which supports the well-being, peace, harmony, and joy of another being or oneself or of Earth.
“Bad” is the complement or that which is seen to be unhelpful, unuseful, negative, degrading, and generally something that does not support the health, peace, and happiness of another being or oneself or of Earth.
We would probably all agree upon clearly “bad” things that happen (such as physical or mental harm or an illness or war or authoritarianism). The question “why do bad things happen” has the same underlying answer as “why do good things happen.”
And when the above question about bad things happening is made, the person asking may really be wondering “How can I or we stop bad things happening?”
Or she/he may be thinking, “Bad things shouldn’t happen.”
It’s an Existential Question
It’s simplistic to say “bad things happen because of bad people,” because there is “good” and “bad” in all of us and life is complex or inter-related.
Bad things don’t happen because of a vengeful God or because there are Angels who don’t listen or care.
I believe that God or Source and the emissaries of God are intelligence and consciousness that seek harmony or unity. Their roles are to facilitate human life, coexisting together in peace and living one vibrational energy (LOVE).
This is the L.O.V.E of the Source when Source or God wanted to know itself through looking inward and creating matter in its likeness. Source gave human beings free-will.
“Good” and “Bad” are perspectives or viewpoints. They are in the “eyes” of the beholders. There’s a “grey area” when it comes to whether some things are “good” or “bad.” We can use our free-will to choose our perspectives.
For example, you might miss your bus to work and think “that’s bad.” However, it is actually “good” if by not being on that bus you avoided being in an accident.
The thing is with human beings is that we like to be in control and we like to know what’s coming up. And we sometimes have fear of the future or fear of the present, both presented as fear of the unknown. This makes us immediately label undesirable things as “bad”, before we let more of the situation unravel or play out.
It’s okay to be you. It’s not surprising if you missed your bus, that you would be a bit angry or upset and concerned. You would have to let your coworkers know that you’re running late. Your schedule would be disrupted, and there may be other consequences.
But the positive and helpful choices for you in any intense situation are to:
Acknowledge your immediate thoughts and feelings. Ask yourself if any of your feelings are coming from another unrelated situation, thus “coloring” how you feel.
Answer yourself honestly why you are having these thoughts and feelings.
Decide clearly on affirmative action to help your situation, whether that be to disregard what happened and focus on helpful things, or whether it be something else, that’s civil, helpful, and positive.
Let go any discordant thoughts and feelings. Consciously release any energy and emotions that are not yours. The inciting event may conjure up thoughts like, “I am not responsible,” or “They will see me as irresponsible.” However, dig deep and you may find that these stem from thoughts and ideas that other people have put into your head. In this case, step up and reclaim that you ARE a responsible and capable person! You need to be calm under pressure to make your best next move.
The thing is, as far as possible, do not judge an event as either good or bad.
If you try to view it neutrally, once your initial surprise and feelings have been released by you to the Light of God, then you can implement gainful change, then adopt a “wait and see, with positivity or faith” attitude.
In this hypothetical example, you would congratulate yourself for choosing to calm yourself and for taking the next right step. You phoned or messaged your work team what was happening and waited for the next bus. Even if there was no accident that you avoided, you have exited the event, NOT regarding what happened to you as “bad”.
Rather, you are learning to treat it as “one of those things.”
Accepting being human
Perfectionism is something that human beings may subconsciously strive for or want, but that would mean not being human. We don’t do things perfectly because we’re not designed that way.
Good things happen because a person uses their free-will to do something supportive.
Traditionally, bad or good things happen because of three foundational reasons.
A person uses their free-will and their power to do something unsupportive or supportive, either directly to you, or indirectly.
A person’s physical condition is in good condition; OR is not in optimal condition at birth, or is altered during their life cycle due to stress and/or their physical environment.
Our outer world or the physical environment that we live in is in a state where our best health and that of the Earth is either optimized or not optimized.
Let me explain some things clearly here. I don’t use the word “unenlightened” to be derogatory or to put anyone “down” as lesser.
“Unenlightened” does not mean stupid, ignorant, or malevolent people. It means anyone, including you and me at some points in our lives, when we do not understand or feel our connection to the whole. It’s when a person literally is not working within or connected to the light.
In this state of being, some people become focused on selfish interests or on unhelpful thoughts, feelings, and actions. They literally do not feel the light of God (i.e. Source, etc.) within them much. If they did, they would show respect and genuine understanding and care, as much as possible.
“Unhealthy body” refers to less than optimum fitness and health of all matter forms in human form. So, unenlightened action by ourselves and others can, of course, lead to illness or to unhealthy physical conditions. People around us who are unthoughtful and vent their unhappiness upon us can prompt us to respond with stress.
When we have an unhealthy body, including our minds, we may be less likely or less able to manage our thoughts, feelings, and actions.
If you’re feeling unwell or stressed, your thoughts may be clouded when you make decisions or you may not have the energy to do things. This can result in “unenlightened” action by you, for example, pretending things are okay or refusing to deal with the sources of stress.
Being “enlightened” doesn’t mean that you are better than others. It means that you are connected to the whole and choose to work toward harmony and the right use of power.
If people tease or annoy you, considering them as “temporarily unenlightened” may help you manage yourself and not stress out. Give them a chance of enlightenment. It’s your responsibility to put emphasis or energy into what and who you value, rather than let small things stress you out. Let go and Let God.
Our birthright is to be healthy, happy, and wise, coexisting among all peaceful and cared for beings on a sustainable planet.
The way to stop or reduce bad things happening is to be an active person in your own life and in the world at large.
Self-knowledge or knowing who you are gives you confidence that you are worthwhile, capable and competent. Self-belief is huge and embraces feeling worthwhile. If you’ve had a traumatic childhood or earlier years, you may struggle with feeling worthwhile. Try not looking at past events as “bad” because that is likely to subconsciously make you think that you are “bad.”
If you focus on a problem as being bad and nonredeemable, then that stops you from taking constructive action to deal with it. If you focus on your achievements and on who you really are (from knowing thyself) and you take necessary action to build up your feelings of self-worth, that is more helpful than getting angry about something “bad.”
For example, if you get a sense of achievement from creating things, perhaps do some drawing, painting, arts or crafts, game building, coding, singing, or writing, voluntary work, etc. and share publicly, so you will receive more appreciation for your offerings.
Acceptance is important
Acceptance means to acknowledge and face something, with the courage, honesty, and civility that it requires. Sometimes you need to use strong words to get your message across, but don’t resort to doing what you don’t want others to do to you. Acceptance doesn’t necessarily mean liking something.
What you resist persists. If you don’t like something that happens and you ignore it, you are resisting it. This leads to unresolved thoughts and feelings. These may gather as dense unhelpful balls of energy in one’s body, contributing toward a blocked flow of life force or chi. This in turn can cause disruptions to the physical body.
Once you start digging into the situation, you can ask yourself, “Is my evaluation of the situation correct? In some cases, your assessment is guess-work or speculation or not even right. If an event causes fear in you, ask yourself is this really deep-seated fear from the past, such as fear of not feeling good enough spilling over into the present?
Be clear about the immediate effect of a happening and take steps to thwart unwanted long-term impacts, with civility or respect for yourself and others.
Plan to respond effectively, not with anger, upset feelings, or stress, which can lead to bitterness, a less effective body, and more unwanted things in the future. But at the same time, put yourself first with 100% self-love and self-care. Take action for your wellbeing.
If you consciously choose not to label a situation as “bad”, this can take some fear and illogical reaction away from it. Consider the person or situation as “unenlightened” and calmly look at the pathways in front of you. With the help of guidance from your Soul and/or from your Spirit team (angels and guides), take the next right step.
If someone’s upset with you and you think that you’re responsible for provoking someone, you may realize that you haven’t let anyone down. In fact, you are not responsible for what another person thinks. Each one of us responsible for ourselves, perhaps more than what we think.
Collective action
Over eons of time, human beings have used their free-will, resulting in oppression, poverty, inequitable distribution of resources, and degradation of the environment.
You are not helpless. There is a lot of “good” around you. If you believe in Source (or God) as a greater power or force that you as a “Soul” is connected to, this “other-worldly” support and your true essence can give you the guidance and inspiration to get through life as best you can.
The real question: How do we change “bad” things?
“Bad” things happen, sadly, because we are in dense physical form, and we are completely interdependent and interconnected. Some human beings became totally disconnected from Source and focus upon a small sphere of interests, in “unenlightened” states of being.
I believe that human beings, as Souls, chose to become dense and partly disconnected from Source. Although many will say that too many of us are focused upon themselves, to the detriment of humanity and Earth, I believe that the tide is turning.
The fact that we exist is a miracle of the Divine or of Source or God, call it what you will. It’s time for us to use new language and to strengthen our connections to our Souls and to Source.
We have Souls, eternal parts of us, that will give us the “higher” wisdom or guidance to get through our dense lives well, if we let our Souls do this.
Something may be undesirable, but it doesn’t always mean that it is really bad in terms of terrible or having “the end of the world” impact. Some things that happen have been firmly entrenched within our collective human world, but just as they were built up over time, so they can be taken down over time.
Let’s chip away, brick by brick, focusing on what’s right in front of us, without fear of the unknown. Embrace things as helpful or resourceful, OR as unhelpful rather than as “good” or “bad,” one at a time in the web of interrelated causal events. This approach, along with faith in Source as providing what we need, and belief in yourself as competent and worthwhile, is your inherent path.
The correct perspective of the impact and of what you can do to prevent what’s unwanted and to magnetize what you desire and need is powerful.
The Take Away
Bad things don’t happen because of a vengeful God or because there are Angels who don’t listen or care. God or Source and the emissaries of God are intelligence and consciousness that seek harmony or unity through subtle guidance and messages made to us. This input from Source, your Soul, Angels, and Spirit Guides is wisdom that teaches us how to be spiritual or to recognize and live as one.
When you choose to see bad and good as all coming from one field of potential, for your learning purposes, you may feel buoyed and fueled to take the next right step to advance what you want, for the highest good of all, including yourself.
This is because you realize that Source provides us with equal opportunities for both “good” or “bad” if we manage ourselves at the Soul level, which includes influencing the collective to truly care about Earth and all beings.
And this IS possible, because anything from Source is possible. If you feel so called, make a commitment to strengthen your connection to your Soul, the eternal part of you that is directly connected to Source (or God).
This blog, “Soul Connexions” seeks to share my learned knowledge and my personal experiences, in order that the Self teams up with Source via the Soul, for the happiness and good health of the Self, and in turn for the well-being of all.
Besides asking “Why do bad (or good) things happen,” we can ask:
“How do I create the life that I want?
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